sub-process: use gentle handshake to avoid die() on startup failure

sub-process: use gentle handshake to avoid die() on startup failure

When the configured subprocess command contains shell metacharacters
(such as a space), prepare_shell_cmd() wraps it in "sh -c <cmd>".
The shell itself always starts successfully, so start_command()
returns zero even if the tool inside does not exist.  The subsequent
handshake then reads from a dead pipe and calls die() via the
non-gentle packet_read_line(), killing the parent process instead of
letting it handle the error.

Before this change, a missing filter process at a path containing
spaces produces a confusing error:

    $ git -c filter.myfilter.process="/path with space/tool" \
          -c filter.myfilter.required=true add file.txt
    /path with space/tool: line 1: /path: No such file or directory
    fatal: the remote end hung up unexpectedly

After this change, the proper error is reported:

    $ git ... add file.txt
    /path with space/tool: line 1: /path: No such file or directory
    error: could not read greeting from subprocess '/path with space/tool'
    error: initialization for subprocess '/path with space/tool' failed
    fatal: file.txt: clean filter 'myfilter' failed

Switch the subprocess handshake from the dying packet_read_line()
to packet_read_line_gently() so that a process that exits during
startup produces an error return instead of killing the caller.

This affects any subprocess consumer whose command path contains
spaces.  On Windows this routinely happens because programs live
under "C:/Program Files/...", and MSYS2 path conversion can rewrite
absolute paths to include that prefix.  On POSIX it triggers
whenever the configured path naturally contains a space or other
metacharacter.  convert.c (filter.<driver>.process, used by git-lfs
and custom clean/smudge filters) is the primary affected consumer.

Signed-off-by: Michael Montalbo <mmontalbo@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Junio C Hamano <gitster@pobox.com>